The A–Z of Intermarriage
© 2020
Most Jewish communities continue to cite intermarriage as the most serious threat to Jewish continuity. Contrary to the view that intermarriage is a crisis for Judaism, The A–Z of Intermarriage reveals that intermarriage can be a force for good in the lives of Jewish families and communities.
Written by Rabbi Denise Handlarski, an intermarried rabbi, The A–Z of Intermarriage is part story, part strategy, and all heart, as well as a coming together of religious source material, cultural context, and personal narrative. Fun to read and full of helpful and practical tips and tools for couples and families, this book is the perfect "how-to" manual for living a happy and balanced intermarried life.
This book is for people who:
- Are intermarried, open to intermarriage, or considering intermarriage
- Have family members or friends who are intermarried or entering into an interfaith/intercultural relationship
- Are seeking models, guidance, and tips about creating a happy relationship and family
- Are interested in points of view about intermarriage and/or Judaism they have never heard or considered
- Love "how-to" books
- Want to know more about Jewish approaches to life, learning, and love
Product Details
- Imprint: New Jewish Press
- World Rights
- Page Count: 248 pages
- Illustrations: 3
- Dimensions: 6.0in x 0.7in x 9.0in
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Reviews
"Finally! The A-Z of Intermarriage is an accessible guide for interfaith couples and their families to navigate issues with love and a generous dose of humor. Both practical and entertaining, this daring book will help all who read it and the many generations to come."
Dr. Keren R. McGinity, Director, Interfaith Families Jewish Engagement, Shoolman Graduate School of Jewish Education and Jewish Studies, Hebrew College"Whether or not you are Jewish or religious, or even married, if the subject of intermarriage interests you, you'll be extremely fortunate to pick up this book and discover Rabbi Denise Handlarski as your guide to this complex and important subject. Handlarski's wisdom, warmth, knowledge, and humor shine throughout and may very well empower you or a loved one to embrace a new, healthier understanding of what it means to be part of a modern Jewish family."
Greg M. Epstein, Humanist Chaplain at Harvard and MIT“Who better to guide a deep exploration of the joys and challenges of intermarriage than Denise Handlarski, one of the most creative and passionate rabbis on the scene today? This book, a rarity in that its author is herself an intermarried rabbi, is as fun to read as it is informative. The A–Z of Intermarriage compellingly demonstrates that the phrase ‘proud, intermarried Jew’ was never an ‘O’ for ‘Oxymoron.’ It illustrates powerfully that the phrase belongs under ‘A’ for ‘Awesome.’ It is just the book we need as we live through, and participate in, the transformation of Judaism for a new era.”
Dan Libenson and Lex Rofeberg, Judaism Unbound -
Author Information
Rabbi Denise Handlarski is an intermarried rabbi ordained through the Secular Humanistic Jewish movement, serving the online community SecularSynagogue.com and the Toronto community Oraynu Congregation for Humanistic Judaism. -
Table of contents
Acknowledgments
Introduction
A
Acceptance
Action
Adam and Eve
Aggravation
Antisemitism
Assertiveness
A$$holes
Assimilation
Attentiveness
AttitudeB
B’shert
Backgrounds
Beauty
Belief, Behavior, Belonging (bonus: B. Mitzvah)
Bible
Blending
Borrowing
BridgesC
Calm
Camp
Children (and bonus “C”—circumcision)
Communication/Chrismukkah
Community
Compromise
Conversion
Cost
Creativity
CultureD
Daily Life (tasks, what you want daily life to look like)
Dancing
Daring
Death
Definition
Destiny
Divorce
DIY
Dogma
DreamsE
Eagerness
Eats
Education
Elation
Elevation
Emotion
Emotional Load
Energy/Excitement
Equality/Equity
The EverydayF
Feelings/Fear
Fellowship
Festive Season
Fidelity
Forgiveness
Frankness
Freedom
Friendship
Fun
Future PlanningG
Garbage
Gefilte Fish
Giving
God
Goodness
Google
Grandchildren
Grief
Grudges/Grievances
GuiltH
Happiness
Healing
Hearing
Helping
Holidays
Honoring
Hope
Hostility
Hosting
HurtingI
Ignorant
Important
Inclusivity/Inclusion (featuring InterfaithFamily.com)
Indivisibility
Industriousness
Insistence
Intensity
Invitations
Irritation
IsolationJ
Jazz
Jealousy
Jerks
Jesus
Jokes
Journey
Joy
Judaism/Jewishness
Juggling
JusticeK
Kaleidoscope
Kaput
Karma
Keva/kavannah
Kids
Kindness
Kings
Klunkiness
Knowledge
KosherL
Lean In
Learning
Legalities
Listening
Literature
Losing It
Loss and Letting Go
Love
LuggageM
Marriage
Meaning
Mentsch
Mindfulness
Mistakes/Messes
Mixed
Moments
Money
Moses
MysteryN
Nag
Nationhood
Needs versus Wants
Negativity/Naysaying
Negotiation
Never Say Never
No Nos
Nope
“Normal”
NuptialsO
Officiating
Ok
Openness
Opportunity
Oppression
Optimism
Ordained
Originality
Oscillation
OxygenP
Pandering
Parenting
Parents
Partnership
Passion
Paternalism
Patrilineal Descent
Poetry
Possibility
PrinciplesQ
Quagmires and Quandaries
Quality
Quantity
Quarrelling
Queer
Questioning
Quicksand
Quid Pro Quo
Quirks
QuotableR
Reaching Out
Realism
Reason(ableness)
Reconnection
Relatives
Relativity
Renewal
Resilience
Respect
RulesS
Sensitivity
Serendipity/Syncronicity
Sex/Sweetness/Softness
Sharing
Shavuot
Shopping - Stuff
Shopping - Synagogues
Silliness
Stifled
StrugglingT
Talk Therapy
Talmud
Teaching
Terminology
The Attic
Tikkun Olam
Tradition
Truth
Turtle Island
TzedakahU
Ugliness
Undercutting
Understanding
Unity
Universality
Unlearning
Unorthodox
Unpopular
Urgency
UtopiaV
Vacations
Values
Vantage Point/Viewpoint
Variability
Veils
Venting/Ventilation
Vicious Circles
Victories
Visibility
VisionW
Wake up Calls
Wandering
Weddings
White Dresses
Whiteness
Wisdom
Wishlists
Wokeness
Wondering
WorldlinessX/Y
X Marks the Spot
Xenophobia
X-factor
Xmas
X-rays
Yearning
Yelling
Yiddish
Yom Kippur
YouZ
Zamboni
Zany
Zealous
Zero Tolerance
Zigzag (rhizome)
Zipper (seam)
Zodiac
Zone
Zoom
ZygoteAppendix: December Delights: Creating and Crushing Chrismukkah
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Downloads/Links
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Subjects and Courses